"Done with Church" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

11 Reasons Why It’s So Hard to Leave the Church

BUY A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON 11 Reasons Why It’s So Hard to Leave the Church (*** I originally wrote this for my beloved online community, The Lasting Supper. They found it very helpful. I hope you do too. If you want the friendship and support The Lasting Supper provides,…

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"Suffer in Silence" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Why Do We Hide Our Pain?

BUY A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON Why do we hide our pain? Here are just a few: 1. We are ashamed because we think it makes us look weak. 2. We don’t want people to think we aren’t getting over it fast enough. 3. We don’t want to be a…

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"Deconstruction and Marriage" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

The Deconstruction of Your Beliefs and Your Marriage

BUY A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON The Deconstruction of Your Beliefs and Your Marriage One of the most difficult challenges I ever undertook was to deconstruct my beliefs and stay married. Honestly, there were many times Lisa and I didn’t think we were going to make it. But we did.…

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"No Agenda" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Advice on Making Friends after Leaving the Church

GET A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON When we leave the church, one of the hardest things to do is build new relationships. Because you will probably lose most if not all of the friends you had. I’ve been through it, learned a lot, and want to share some advice with…

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"Find Lose" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Finding Yourself but Losing Your Friends

I was fortunate to find churches in which I felt I had room to change and grow. However, inevitably, I discovered that I would change and grow beyond the box of their comfort zone. When you change, so do your relationships. You may lose friends. You may even lose family.…

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"Bigger Carpet" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

10 Reasons Why the Church is the Perfect Culture for Abuse

In spite of the protests I get nearly every day that my focus on abuse in the church is unbalanced and unnecessary because it’s so rare, I continue to address it because millions of people are recipients of spiritual abuse at the hands of their spiritual leaders and their churches.…

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"Not All Churches" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

When People Say, “Not All Churches!”

My posts about spiritual abuse often get reactions from people claiming that I’m needlessly and bitterly highlighting an infrequent and isolated problem in the church. They are usually angry and defensive. They say things like: “You’re crying out like a wounded animal! Get over your bitterness.” “How dare you attack…

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Money is Spiritual: “Is Money a Priority?”

Is Money a Priority? If you want to receive my daily emails, sign up HERE. If you just want my weekly digest of the previous week, sign up HERE. Of course, you can get both if you want. Why am I writing a series on money? First, I’m writing it…

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"The Love Trap" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Community and Orgasms

(I drew this cartoon, originally, way back in 2010. I saw a picture of a Burning Man installation that I think used this idea. Prints are available.) The following is a letter I wrote to my online community, The Lasting Supper. I get way more vulnerable and personal with them,…

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Money is Spiritual: “The Spiritual Power of Money”

The Spiritual Power of Money (If you want to receive my daily emails, sign up HERE. If you just want my weekly digest of the previous week, sign up HERE. Of course, you can get both if you want.) Some have asked me why I say “money is spiritual”. Let…

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