Jesus gives advice about abuse for 2016

"Advice for 2016" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

“Advice for 2016” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward


For some reason I had a lot of exposure to this harmful theology. It’s taken a lot of personal work to explore the reasons why.

On the one hand, I do know it’s out there propagating itself. It’s a popular theology. On the other hand, I’ve came to realize that there has been something within me that feels I should suffer and even be abused. I’ve had to come to admit that I’ve even invited it. This was a painful realization, but an incredibly necessary and healthy one.

I claim we find beliefs that works for us. Then that belief becomes an internal psychological force that changes us to conform more to itself. It’s a circular, symbiotic relationship servicing the ego.

The church, like many institutions, intuitively understands this dynamic and uses it to manage its people.


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2 Responses

  1. Adam Julians says:

    Thank you David and thank you for continuing to indulge my presence here.

    What you share about “painful realisation” I connect with. Someone said to me recently that I “invite” being mistreated.


    There was truth in what she said whatever her motivations were for saying it.

    In my church experiences I recognise there was some theology that I have welcomed that ultimately has been hurtful for me although I wouldn’t have recognised it as such times. In my last church I shared about mistreatment to someone in a position of trust who then treated me as the one doing the mistreatment claiming that she was being prophetic and speaking as she was because “men have the power and God deals with those in position of power in the first instance”. It was a trigger that led to me eventually leaving.

    There would have been a time I would have believed someone who said something like that about me just as I believed it at school when I was told I was lazy, careless and complacent. The reality was I had dyslexia, I was working as hard as I could and making mistakes and not functioning well as symptoms of this.

    I find “you tell them to get lost” helpful and accurate. I have a tendency (especially with women) to apologise if I have done something wrong and walk away from a person or situation that is hurtful for me. But your cartoon is a challenge to me to speak up more in order to not “invite” hurtful conduct.

    “When you enter a town and are not welcomed, go into its streets and say, “Even the dust of your town we wipe from our feet as a warning to you. Yet be sure of this: the kingdom of God has come near.” I tell you, it will be more bearable on that day for Sodom than for that town.” Lk 10:10-12

    So it seems as well as telling people to “get lost” it was about warning them about judgement. So, maybe there is a place for someone who is being hurtful to experience fear as a consequence and redress the power that they used to have over you?