You can leave your church alive!

"Church Web" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

“Church Web” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

YES! You CAN leave your church alive! And I can help you do it.

I went to church my whole life. I pastored churches for most of it.

I finally left the ministry. I finally left the church as a regular member. That was in 2010. Five years ago!

It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.

We have spiders around our house. Once in a while I’ll accidentally walk through one of their webs. It takes a long time to finally get that sticky mess out of my hair and off my clothes.

Same with the church. It took me a long time to break away. It took me a long time to clean off the residue that stuck to me. You know… the toxic relationships, the codependencies, the culture, the guilt, the shame, the fear… and the good stuff too… the friendships, the good feelings, the culture, the commonality, the excitement, the expectations and hopes. It was a whole network… yes, a web!… of addictions. Some good. Some bad. It was hard to break away and start a totally new life that looks and feels very different now.

If you know what I’m talking about, please accept my invitation to join others who get this at The Lasting Supper. A great bunch of people with lots of resources to help you feel alive again.


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5 Responses

  1. Hamsahandgirl says:

    ‘Hello’ said the shepherd to the sheep 🙂

  2. Ducatihero says:

    I can identify in some respects with this, not with others. For me it had been about habit but never trapped in a Web, not really.

    I suppose it would have been different if I had been around church all my life but I always had a sense that I could either take it or leave it.

    But then couldn’t any institution in principle become a trap? For example can’t people go through similar experiences when say retiring and leaving work?

  3. Here sheepy sheepy. Dinner time!

  4. Eric says:

    Sometimes you can be in a church that thinks the only legitimate reason for leaving is moving out of town…