I’m taking a break and here’s why!

David and Lisa Hayward

David and Lisa Hayward

It’s been a grueling year.

I wrote a book coming out this summer, called “Questions are the Answer”. I think that exhausted me more than I initially realized.

Even though I’ve done five books and have others in process, I have one in me that needs writing, and that’s my Z-Theory. It feels important to me. I need to imagine it, and I’ll do that on the beach.

I’ve been cartooning and campaigning for survivors of abuse, silencing, and shaming. I couldn’t have predicted how much silencing and shaming I myself would receive for that. It has been heartbreaking. But it has also made me realize where the root of the problem is: power and its privileges and abuses.

I facilitate an amazing online community called The Lasting Supper that requires, happily, a lot of my time and effort, and in order for me to be on my game, I could use a rest. It is meaningful, satisfying, but exhausting work. I know they’d want me to rest as well. Love you guys!

But, best of all, Lisa and I are celebrating our 35th anniversary on May 4. She got a student loan rebate, and rather than spend it on something sensible, like new siding for the house, she decided to take me on a vacation and make memories.

I’ll be back soon.

Thanks guys!


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23 Responses

  1. Sabio Lantz says:

    Bon Voyage!

  2. Ducatihero says:

    What does happen can be heartbreaking. I know well the kind of thing you are talking about David.

    Can I suggest something about power in it being about how power is used and as has been discussed before that it would be naiive to think that it is only people in positions of power tha abuse?

    Call it a coincidence if you like but in terms of power, it has occurred to me that with real power, with real security a servant can be more powerful than a king. Think Russell Crowe in Gladiator.

    I wish you all the best David. May your batteries be recharged on your trip and may the fourth be with you 😉

  3. doug says:

    Congratulations! !

  4. at says:

    Your simple, clear, powerful voice will be missed, but hopefully restored and renewed. Have fun!

  5. Pam says:

    May the 4th be with YOU!! Lol
    Awesome to hear, you are enjoying one another and treating yourselves. You both deserve, and need to take care of yourself and each other.

    Restoration time.

  6. Laura Beth says:

    Godspeed, fair winds and following seas

  7. ReAwakeningWoman says:

    Engage | Embrace | Enjoy!!!

  8. Donna Erickson says:

    Sensible decision..you definitely need a break. May your time-off be a rejuvenating of the Spirit. Stay safe.

  9. Dee Parsons says:

    You wife has laughing eyes. You need to spend time with her. You are a brave, thoughtful, as well as sensible person. Have a wonderful time.

  10. Margaret Trezevant says:

    Good for you! Blessings on your time away, happy anniversary, and come back refreshed and renewed!

  11. David – siding will always be available but memorie with Lisa won’t. Go have a super time without any guilt. You and Lisa have paid into the system for a looooooooooooooooooooooog time and it will be in a social investment for you both to recharge your batteries and be rested to give back to the community upon your return. Have a blast, be safe and God Bless.

  12. TWPWE says:

    Happy resting! Happy beaching! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!

    Keep up the important work. You were a part in my life being saved and you encourage me to speak out, as well.

    “Don’t try to win over the haters. You’re not the jackass whisperer.” ?

  13. Kathi says:

    Congrats to both of you! And, I agree….siding is way too sensible. Why not have some fun?

  14. Nathanael says:

    Hope you have a great time David!

  15. Kelly Westover says:

    You’ve been on my heart David, and I am so happy to hear that you are taking a rest break and taking care of YOU! Happy anniversary!

  16. Bridget says:

    Happy time to you both!

  17. Gordon says:

    Hope you both have an amazing time, you really deserve it! Eat, drink, be foolish, be merry & make some awesome memories!

  18. Gary says:

    Drink a tall one (or 3) for me!!

  19. Jill says:

    Enjoy a well-deserved and much needed break, David.

  20. irreverance says:

    Happy anniversary! Have fun!

  21. Purvez says:

    David enjoy your ‘us’ time with Lisa.

    ‘Let the world turn without you …,for a while’.

    It will be all the more receptive to your msg when you return.

  22. Laura Hall-Schordje says:

    Congratulations! Have a wonderful time with your lovely wife so you may come back refreshed and renewed to fight the good fight. God bless you!