I don’t know much about churches over there. Here you’re fairly safe if you stick to the Church of England because they tend to be quite balanced. Having said that, I go to two churches on Sundays and neither are C of E. Some of the leadership team at the charismatic one have some weird ideas and I don’t know if I will stay there. The other church is very small and is for gay people who haven’t felt able to continue at mainstream churches. It IS accepted by the other churches in the city though who all work together quite a bit. Not everyone there is gay, but it’s a very non-judgemental church. I’m trying a C of E one tomorrow because I’m still quite new to the area and want to see what the options are.

I don’t think irons were around when the Bible was written Tiggy. :p I think men and women should discuss that among themselves. I don’t know how to iron. My dad ironed his own shirts. I don’t think being submissive means doing all the chores. Unless the woman likes that kind of stuff. Women might be more likely to do the cleaning and stuff. It depends on the situation.

I’m trying to get a chance to go to a friend’s church. It’s not really a church, they call it an assembly. They gather on sundays, they don’t really have pastors i think. People go as they are led (but not disorderly) and offer a hymn or a prayer or a bible verse. And then after awhile they break bread, and some wine. and then they do it a bit more. It actually sounds closer to the earlier church. But I have to take my little 8 year old friend to our church, so I need to find someone to take care of her before I can go.

You probably think I need a better counsellor than my pastor too :p. Seriously, being at church and being christian has helped me. Although at the moment it may feel I’ve traded one crisis for another. Even though I cried real hard tonight – I didn’t try to hurt myself over it. I went and played piano instead. I don’t think I would’ve been able to do that even a month ago.

I’m not married, so I’ll let people sort that out for themselves. I don’t particularly want to get married now – I don’t want to do some guy’s ironing. Do you think women are divinely appointed to do the ironing Semety?

From what you’ve said, I think you should try some different churches – some very different churches.