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cartoon: effective exit interview

Posted in humour by nakedpastor on the November 5th, 2008

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  1. Barb said, on November 5th, 2008 at 10:29 am

    Smile…..this what we were told was out there. It turned out not to be true. But then you know that. We have actually heard that it has been said in our former church that the reason we are still “prosperous” (ie- not fallen off the cliff) is because we have not spoken against them.

  2. steve martin said, on November 5th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    I’d actually like push a few over that cliff. It really ticks me off when someone leaves our congregation (where they are getting the Word and sacraments faithfully) over some stupid issue with another member, or because we didn’t spend some money for one of their pet projects, or because we did, or because they are not getting a list of how they should be living their Christian lives, or …whatever.

    Good ridance, I say. Maybe if they go to a church that practices enough B.S., they will return someday with a better perspective.

  3. Jodi said, on November 5th, 2008 at 12:18 pm

    I had to leave my old church for my own survival. It was killing me off so much, that I had no energy (or even a full understanding) to explain why I had to leave. My pastor said something similar to me, and even invited me to give him more input. When I had the wherewith to provide him with more about what happened with me (to me), he never responded. I think it’s a lie when pastors say they “wish you the best.” Mine said, “You’re welcome back anytime.” Riiiiiiiight………

  4. ttm said, on November 5th, 2008 at 1:12 pm

    I hear you, Jodi!

    I was given an exit interview at the church school at which I worked for a short (but such a long) time. It was so obviously done from a sense of duty; the principal was not sincere. And it was done in such a way that I had no time to prepare for it or to have an honest response ready. Instead, I was like a deer in the headlights–blindsided into scared silence. It was an extension of exactly what the staff wanted and what they were so good at.

    Even though I resigned my position at the school, I remained at the church for about a year. When I couldn’t stand the insincerity and oppression anymore, I was compelled to leave. There was no exit interview or even a followup email or phone call to acknowledge my leaving.

    My friend, who walked the identical path, with the added blessing (Yes, a word laced with sarcasm…) of having been on the church staff previous to being a resigning teacher and a leaving member, asked to meet with the pastor to present her concerns. She asked over a period of months. She was willing to meet at any time. She did not pressure the pastor nor did she conduct herself in a way that drew negative attention to her personal struggle or that created a stir within the congregation at large. That pastor, and several others on staff, just “couldn’t find the time” to meet with her.

    I don’t know what’s worse–having no real opportunity to present your concerns or having to listen to a “smiley-touchy-feely-I’m-a-good-Christian-because-I-say-the-right-things-even-though-I-really-believe-you’re-an-evil-traitor-whom-God-will-eventually-get-sick-of-and-strike-with-a-lightning-bolt.-HA!!!” lecture.

    (No need to point out that I’m still carrying some bitterness and working on forgiving, fishon. That’s entirely true, I’m not proud of it, and I freely admit it like James 3:14 encourages.)

  5. Alden said, on November 5th, 2008 at 1:18 pm

    lol… this is why I’m leaving my current church (which is, coincidentally, the one from 2 cartoons ago) very slowly and carefully… ;-)

  6. Semety said, on November 5th, 2008 at 3:18 pm

    My friend asked for a transfer of membership from a church she used to go to and the pastor told her she was “unfit for church” and said she was only doing it because her friends were.

    On the other hand, my current pastor is very welcoming. He’d prefer if people became members there, but some of my friends still don’t feel right because of the infant baptism issue, so if they wanted to join another church – he’d be happy. Actually our directory includes some people in other churches. But I don’t think there’s many good churches inside Halifax.

    I’m so lucky. It makes me want to cry that the church is falling apart. I don’t know why God lets it happen.

  7. SocietyVs said, on November 5th, 2008 at 10:57 pm

    Man, when that dude goes through the doors is he in for a sharp surprise. Ouch!

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  9. zefi said, on November 8th, 2008 at 12:12 am

    Told you it’s dangerous out there!

    :P

  10. Gabriel said, on November 9th, 2008 at 6:57 am

    I feel like this but it’s not right for me to feel about that about memebers who leave.

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